Oct 25, 2017
The whole 'Me Too' phenomenon where women publicly open up on social media about sexual assault or harrassment has sparked alot of debate. I steer clear of that in this episode and focus on the life-changing reframe of trauma that has helped me and others live our lives free of its power. No need for a time machine.
There is no account in this episode of my experiences, so if you have found that others' stories trigger you, there is no need to worry here. The main focus is on the process of resolving trauma.
INTRO
Why I think 'Me Too' is part of a bigger healing process - and what
that is
SECTION 2 (Starts at 4:30)
How food can be a coping mechanism for trauma
SECTION 3 (Starts at 9:00)
How an overwhelming event becomes trauma: The three stages of
tribal initiation. Childhood trauma partially mimics tribal
initiation, of which there are three stages. Trauma misses out on
the third, vital stage, and this is why so many people feel unable
to move on after overwhelming life events. What Goldie Hawn has to
do with all of this.
SECTION 4 (starts at 16:00)
The liberating truth that will set you free from guilt: the real
reason that so many people self-sabotage so badly in their lives.
This is an unconscious attempt to resolve the trauma. Listen and
find out exactiy how.
SECTION 5 (Starts at 21:49)
Four Ways To Move To Stage 3
*Speak your truth...
*...to the right audience
*Replace the victim identity with that of the wounded healer
*Risking rejection
SECTION 6 (starts at 29:14)
What stage 3 looks like – my personal experience
SECTION 7 (starts at 33:52)
Putting food out of a job it was never meant to do
Guardian article mentioned at the start
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/oct/16/me-too-victims-perpetrators-sexual-assault
The information on tribal initiation and trauma is from The
Language of Emotions by Karla McLaren (Unintentional Shamans)
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/8048177-the-language-of-emotions